Hey y'all. Do me a random favor and think about your exes for a bit. Look back to every crazy, jealous, militant, clingy, and overbearing ex; think about what you learned from each experience. Hell, they don't even have to be an ex for you to learn that it wasn't gonna work. It pisses me off when a great girl gets back with someone who treated her like shit, thinking "oh it won't happen again". Then she's got the audacity to complain. This works for guys too. Yeah, think about that crazy dancer or the cheerleader you dated in high school. Yep, the one that broke your nose. Why in the hell would you get back with that? Maybe you did, maybe you didn't. I just know that I got the hell out of there. The good thing is you learned lessons from each ex.
I can think of a few good lessons I learned with the past few ladies. (These go for guys and girls)
1. Make a damn move! If you think she's worth it, put in the effort.
2. People change. Every day. Make sure you're changing for the better.
3. If she ain't into you, just back out. You should never have to convince a girl you're dateable.
4. When you get out of a long relationship, don't jump right into the next one. Take some time to get reacquainted with yourself.
Bonus: If you don't love yourself, no one will.
Go ahead and write down one lesson you learned from an ex in the comment section below.
Take care,
-T
Don't expect perfection from your partner when lord knows your not perfect yourself. Its not fair to them and it puts added stress on both of you.
ReplyDeleteIve learned that we all have a part in failed relationships, we have to take accountability for our part and learn from it and move on. Allow lIFE TO happen God will let you know when you ae ready for the next great thing :-)
ReplyDeleteNo girl is above breaking your heart and spirit!
ReplyDeleteIf they try to get you to change your life in a way that benefits them more than it benefits yourself, then they are not who you are supposed to be with for the rest of your life.
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